We all know at least one couple who flood their social media with photos — of each other, of themselves together, of their dates, of their food on dates, hashtagging #couplegoals and #togetherforever. The Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin published a study back in 2014, which HuffPost revived on Monday. The study makes a strong case that people who post constantly on social media about their significant other may not feel secure in their relationship.
The researchers hypothesized that attachment styles ― how we emotionally bond and attach to others in our adult lives ― underlie relationship visibility and our desire to post.
The original study said:
On a daily basis, when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships visible.
The article led some people to rethink their social media use when it came to their partner:
I always super petty on my wife's FB. "Thanks for drinking the last cup of coffee and not making more that was really great ☕️😡😍🔫"— Unstable Dumb-dumb (@James_P_E) February 20, 2018
I tagged my wife in a post yesterday about a wife who shit her pants.— Marko (@DeboMalanowski) February 20, 2018
Am I doing this wrong?
Others were in total agreement with the findings:
It also correlates with how people perceive themselves. More posts about how awesome things are? Yeah, probably not going so awesome.— Saul S. (@SaullyJ) February 20, 2018
Meanwhile, a couple of people had reservations about the study:
I think the article undercut its own points by saying secure attachments “no data on posting styles...”— GoddessGoddess (@GoddessBurstall) February 20, 2018
So, in theory, both posting styles can also indicate secure attachment.
That’s not more than 50% true. People I know that post a lot are the happiest couples I know and the ones that don’t show eachother off are shitty couples. That’s 100% of the people I know that are couples.— Shaggy (@KarlSmi56670615) February 20, 2018
Yet there were people who felt couples have to walk a tightrope on social media:
I feel like it's such a thin line of posting about your relationship v over posting. If I see a girl not post a pic of her guy in months I'm like "they're broken up for sure".— Maggie Garcia (@maggiekgarcia) February 18, 2018