Woman Shares Her Boyfriend With His Husband--And They All Couldn't Be Happier

Woman Shares Her Boyfriend With His Husband--And They All Couldn't Be Happier
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7 months ago

Chris and Matt Brandt are married to one another, but in 2015 the pair welcomed a third member to their family. Most of you probably thought of a child, or probably an adorable puppy as the addition. In fact, Chris and Matt added a third partner to their relationship - a woman named Cait - and the three of them want the world to know there's absolutely nothing wrong, weird or even new about ethical non-monogamy. 

The happy "throuple"

The trio gave a surprisingly intimate interview for Barcroft TV recently, and have helped bring the conversation about ethical non-monogamy to the forefront. When discussing how the unit came to be, Chris explained that he was the first one to bring up the idea of adding another partner and made it a point not to rush Matt into anything he wasn't ready for. After a lot of open and honest communication, the pair started spending time with Cait. 

Chris said: 

"The three of us started spending more and more time together and after about seven or eight months, she was staying over about five nights a week."

While Chris and Cait consider themselves bisexual, Matt does not. He identifies as "homoflexible" stating that he is considerably more attracted to men, but views Cait as just another soul who he can connect with on multiple levels, including sexually. They now share a bed in their 1-bedroom apartment and have no plans of going back to living apart. The trio aren't the only "throuple" around. Tons of people, even several public figures, have embraced polyamorous relationships of different types. 

Famed Britney Spears impersonator and RuPaul's Drag Race queen, Derrick Barry, is part of a super glam throuple that has been "trinogamous" for five years, now. 

Singer/rapper Jidenna has spoken openly about how he fully embraces polyamory as long as all partners are on equal footing. Growing up, his grandfather in Nigeria had several wives who were not considered equal to their husband or one another. It's a topic he has even touched on in his lyrics, particularly with his track Bambi.

Jidenna says he feels that arrangement was unhealthy and all partners in his non-monogamous relationships must be equals. 


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Tilda Swinton, Megan Fox, Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith, Jessica Biel, Justin Timberlake, Angelina Jolie and even Dolly Parton are all known to have had non-monogamous relationships. Chris, Matt, and Cait are clearly in good company, then. The trio are hoping their story and the stories of others will begin to change the way the general public views non-monogamous relationships. To them, there really isn't anything controversial about the arrangement. While some view it as strange, it's a common practice throughout the world and has been a thing for centuries if historical records (and the bible) are to be believed. 

Watch their interview here: