Lincoln, Nebraska bride-to-be Hayley Stamper and her groom, Austin, thought of a fun way to include every one of their 600 invited guests in celebrating the happiest day of their lives. They'd make a spot on their wedding invitations for folks to request the one song that would get them up and groovin' on the dance floor.
It was a great idea—that is, until Stamper's ex Thomas Hoefener RSVP'd his song request:
Hoefener responded to the wedding invite: "Accepts with pleasure" and to the fill-in-the-blank prompt "I PROMISE TO DANCE IF YOU PLAY," he answered, "'I Loved Her First—Heartland."
While this may appear shocking to some upon first glance, the truth is, Hayley and her fiancée, Austin, had not only invited her ex (a past high school sweetheart of two years), they had expected a humorous response from Hoefener.
As Stamper told BuzzFeed:
I knew he was going to say something like that. I knew he was going to do something witty the second we invited him.
"All three of us have always been friends, and both my ex and my fiancé were on the same football team," she shared.
But the people of Twitter wanted to weigh in on the unorthodox friendship:
Real question is, are you dancing with him to that song??— Martina Bourland • (@yoitsMartina) June 16, 2018
Not at all! We just dated in the beginning of high school and the only other boyfriend after him was my fiancé. we all went to the same high school so we remained friends! Im not friends with any of my exes before him though😂— Hayley Stamper (@hayley_stamper) June 15, 2018
Apparently, things got a little nasty both in the comments and in DMs (which is why Stamper took down her original post).
To the haters, Stamper had this to say:
Before you quote me with “why tf did you invite your ex” here’s my response!!!— Hayley Stamper (@hayley_stamper) June 15, 2018
*We broke up over 5 years ago! Not every breakup has to have a traumatic ending, thus we’re still friends who can laugh and joke around😊 If my fiancé and ex can laugh at this tweet, you should too!
Also keep in mind that we invited over 600 people to our wedding! My ex and my fiancé have a lot of the same friends so its really not awkward!! I feel lucky to have at least one ex that we both can still remain friends with!— Hayley Stamper (@hayley_stamper) June 15, 2018
Who else would invite their ex if their fiancé and ex were friends since high school. Oh, and you’re all 3 grown ass adults who have moved on from the breakup FIVE years ago🙋🏼♀️— Hayley Stamper (@hayley_stamper) June 16, 2018
But loads of people had the happy couple's back as well:
I’m with you, Hayley. One of my exes is literally one of my best friends, and she married another one of my best friends — my former roommate. I was in their wedding party, and I wouldn’t dream of getting married without inviting them.— Abe (@panic13B) June 28, 2018
H/T: Twitter, BuzzFeed, The Daily Mail