Five years ago, Mormon bloggers, Josh and Laurel "Lolly" Weed went viral with a post celebrating their 10 year wedding anniversary and outing Josh as a gay man living in a straight marriage by choice -- now they're getting divorced.
They announced their divorce the same way they outed their mixed orientation marriage back in June of 2012 -- by writing a revealing (and lengthy) point-by-point, question/answer style blog post, together. Earnest, devout, and sympathetic, Josh Weed and his soon-to-be-ex-wife, Lolly Shea still appear to be a very loving and accepting duo and the raw authenticity with which they have faced down this complicated issue in the public eye has won them many fans.
Brave honesty -- "Giving my whole heart to Josh, while knowing he did not love me the way a man loves a woman, has always been devastating. We were best friends, but he never longed for me. This deficit started to mess with my self-esteem": https://t.co/A3S2NSU4LX— Vicky Beeching (@vickybeeching) January 26, 2018
Many factors weighed in their decision and they cited everything from a responsibility to the LGBTQIA community (especially youth), to the need for self-love (Josh confessed even he had contemplated suicide), the lack of romantic attachment (for both), and the death of Josh's mother.
After reminding her girls (and readers) of the children's book, "Stellaluna," the story of a lost bat who is trying to be a bird, Lolly offered readers this tidbit of her conversation:
Most importantly for many LGBTQIA readers, they apologized for any pain or problems their prior post in 2012 may have caused anyone.
Reactions were mostly positive:
Wow! Raw and so important. 👏🏼🙏🏼We learn as we grow. And the more we share the more we grow. Oh but the growing pains. 💔— Adrienne S. McCord (@AdrienneSMcCord) January 26, 2018
Thank you Josh Weed for sharing your story. Respect. My job as a committed & believing Mormon is to understand other's stories so I can be better honor my baptism covenants to 'mourn for those that mourn' and 'bear one another's burdens'. https://t.co/PMfSXUDVpU— Papa Ostler (@Papa_Ostler) January 26, 2018
Some were deeply personal:
I pray this creates positive waves of change in the #LDS #LGBT community.— Peter Moosman (@petermoosman) January 26, 2018
Josh Weed’s Unicorn article got me dating women, + was used as a weapon against my decision to date men. This article brought tears to my eyes + hope in my heart.#Mormon #GayMormonhttps://t.co/0S1Tuwjjsg
And others weighed in, dragging their bias along with them:
So society is to blame for this person being too much of a coward to not get married? He essentially ruins another persons life (his wife) because he’s a selfish coward. Nothing is worse for a cause than denial and self hatred.— DeplorableLAB™ (@independent_lab) January 27, 2018
She doesn’t love herself and that’s why she put herself into this situation. SIS you deserve better and needed to leave his ass long ago!— Jess (@LookItsJP) January 28, 2018
There was time people cared about how their "I gotta be me" selfishness would affect their children. Now it's just "living MY truth" & we're supposed to applaud. Garbage.— Beloved Deb (@ExMrsSallah1) January 27, 2018
Best of luck Josh, Lolly and fam! We know you'll find your way.