If you're one of those people who believes in and has posted that anonymous quote about cheating that's been memed and re-memed on the interwebs, you may be in for a bit of shock when you read the results of the latest study from The Journal of Sex Research.
Well, turns out that quote has it all wrong . . . or at least the first half. According to new research into the reasons behind why people cheat on their partners conducted by The Journal of Sex Research, the number one reason people gave (a whopping 77 percent!!) when asked why they cheated was "lack of love." They either explicitly stated this as in, "I fell out of love," or a lack of love was in some other way indicated.
While the guttural reaction to being cheated on is often that the person cheating has fallen out of love, the more accurate reasoning is that the person cheating no longer feels loved by his or her partner.
Perhaps, not surprisingly, about a third of all people surveyed stated they cheated simply out of a desire for sex.
Our results also show personality correlates with infidelity motivations. Consistent with predictions, attachment insecurity was associated with motivations of anger, lack of love, neglect, low commitment, and esteem, while unrestricted socio-sexual orientation was associated with sexual variety. Implicit beliefs (e.g growth, destiny, romanticism) were differentially associated with sexual desire, low commitment, lack of love, and neglect.
The takeaway here?
Make sure your partner feels connected, loved and appreciated by you.